Although separated or divorced parents may disagree on nearly everything, the one thing most parents can agree on is the safety and well-being of their children. It’s generally accepted that children benefit the most when both parents are involved in their lives. This is why co-parenting has become one of the more popular child custody arrangements in Virginia and across the country. Sometimes, however, getting along with a former spouse is a challenge, to say the least. Here are a few ways to make co-parenting successful even when the other parent is difficult.
Establish a business relationship
The former relationship is over, water under the bridge, so forget about it. The relationship with the other parent should now be like a business partnership, with the children being the business. Put emotions aside. Be upfront, direct and cordial in communications with the other parent.
Avoid talking about the other parent
Never bad mouth or talk about the other parent in front of the children. Children are always listening, even when it seems they aren’t. Remember, the ex-spouse is still the children’s parent, try to maintain a level of respect.
Be honest and respectful with the other parent. It takes a team effort. For example, be on time for pickups and drop-offs and communicate effectively. Do not enter the other parent’s home unless invited in.
Every child deserves two parents who can work together. Parenting after a divorce or separation can be challenging, yet also one of life’s most rewarding experiences. Parents in Virginia who have questions regarding any aspect of child custody may want to consider speaking with a legal representative. An experienced and knowledgeable family law attorney can answer questions and give much-needed guidance.